Hey Colin

Not a lot to say today. I have a loud toddler running around and I can't pay full attention to you as much I'd like.... I may have missed some things. Anyway, I did hear the stripper comment. Personally, I think you're fibbing to protect your "good guy," reputation. Although I can take the comment several different ways, I'll take it as the pretend/ non-pretend marriage way. Yes, I like my job and think it is fun. Maybe you're being more possessive and saying it out of possessiveness. (I know it sounded more of a liberal statement than anything). You know we're not married or official. Because of this, I just can't leave my job for you. This is a bad area for other jobs and I don't have much of a motivation to look for another one. Liars, Predators, and Tyrants have ruined my work history. Unless we become official and you offer some kind of financial support, I just can't leave my job for you, dear. lol. still thinking of you and I'll be around. ;0) xo

How to Beat a Sex Offender

You don't. It isn't a mind of winning and losing. Of course it is an act that nobody wants to happen. Nobody wants to be sexually abused or offended. When a sex offense happens, it happens, and the title of the happening is: a sexual offense. Not everyone thinks with an innocent mind. A lot of people have different routes of reactions. I think it is the most terrible when someone wants to make a contest out of it: as in "Taming the Dragon." In my most serious mind, whether or not the dragon is tamed, there is no win. If one can't tame a dragon enough in their own vulnerability and defenseless, the person could suffer more consequences. It isn't that the person is deserving of the consequences. A lot of times it depends on how a person wants to survive, or if they would rather keep their pride and take a beating. Sometimes seduction tames a dragon. Other times, seduction is the last thing the dragon would want. I have heard categories of dragons before, but most of it was in one ear and out of the other. Sometimes a dragon is a person you could be attracted to and want to attract them back. This is the biggest grey area when it comes to judgment and mediation. Is it that judgment and mediation is even asked for or wanted? While some people thrive off of other people and live for the game and fame and to people please, others are more personal and private with the other. Just because a person has an attraction to a dragon doesn't mean that the dragon has a permanent clean slate where being guilty of a sexual offense is unheard of. I think there are many times people won't care to take it into account while others will. Different people live different lives with different colors: public/private, loyal/unloyal, fair/unfair with different types of languages, communications, and prejudices. On top of that is a person's level of competition and just how willing they would want to compete. Some people have their own limits and should always be deserving and rightful of their own personal limits and when they would cut the other person off and refuse to compete. While some sexual offenses can almost be light or compared to a white lie; sexual offenses go deep. While many types of sexual abuses and sexual offenses exist, my biggest hate of all sexual offenses is slave labor. There is a serious line when slave labor turns into slave labor. How could people carelessly let a person win the position of "the master."? I think especially when the relationship is public and especially when a lot of egomaniacs are involved, more people should think to question the person who gives their self the name of the "master" above the other person. It really is another dragon of another kind, where again, there is no competition or winning. It should be seen as the sexual victimization game that it is. When it is a person's truth and that person doesn't care to call another their "master," that is their own personal truth. Even though the person usually is seen as the victim, the victim sometimes does try enforce their own slave labor wanting others to compete for this master position. Some people would be willing and other people should feel more than free to not have to compete or made to feel vulnerable to other egomaniacs. When people want to have their own terms of what it means for them to "win," or "lose," they should feel free to have their own personal feelings. Unless the person is a violent rapist on the run where raping is winning, that is not the same page. The blog has been about the person who is being sexually offended, not the offender. The other obvious time is when you are not attracted to the dragon and know you know you don't want to attract the dragon. Once again, there is no winning or competition in this type of situation. It is wrong for a person to be expect punishment for not seducing the dragon. Some people make desperate victimization games out of it anyway. When the action of a sex offense happens, it just does. (I do not believe in the Sharia Law. People should never be marked, labeled, or dependent on the marks a sex offender wants to give.)